Lotty Dotty | Annoyed at Someone? How to Best Deal With It. | We’ve all experienced being annoyed with certain individuals in our life. If we could avoid them at all costs, we would– but more often than not, we can’t really avoid them 100% of the time. Sometimes, we don’t know why we feel the way we do. Maybe we feel frustrated with ourselves at times for consistently reacting negatively manner to them. But if we don’t know why we respond the way we do to certain situations or what causes our temper to flare, how can we hope to change?
Each of us has our own moral compass which was formed throughout the course of our lives. It guides our judgment of what is right and wrong. So it is natural in our human behavior to react negatively when we observe others doing or speaking in ways that we deem unacceptable.
Understanding that what we consider wrong may not be wrong for other people is a crucial element of self-growth. Although we may disagree with other people’s lifestyle choices, we must respect their right to their own opinions and ideals, even if they run counter to our own.
Most of the time, the things that make us respond negatively to other people’s acts are embedded in our minds since we were little. For instance, we have always been taught by our parents or guardians that it is proper to eat with our mouths closed. So when we grew up, we get easily irritated with people who do not share our personal standards for eating but is actually reasonable for them if they were never taught such a habit. The ideals of conduct that we uphold are often what we expect from those around us.
When one partner in a couple expects a specific behavior from the other but the other doesn’t see the value in it, it can cause friction in the relationship. We need to learn how to tolerate and even embrace the differences between one another rather than reacting to the other person’s perspectives so that we may get along better.
By doing so, we alleviate some of our own irritation and frustrations while also giving the other person the gift of complete acceptance. There are some actions that no one should condone (like domestic abuse), but most of the things that annoy us about other people are the result of our own thinking and are based on our own self-importance.
Although we can’t always stop feeling annoyed by other people’s irritating actions, we can learn to manage our responses to them, if we desire to live at peace with ourselves as well as with the people around us.